Stop fretting over Facebook; it is rich content that keeps people around, not that you are special or anything ...
A friend of mine, who has well over 200 friends, thought it would be a good idea to give people an ultimatum; if they wanted to continue to be her friend they could respond within a given amount of time. There was even a poll used to gauge responses. I stated that I wanted to continue to be her friend, as I had no reason not to. I did not even know that she had a Facebook account, she sent the request to me first.
Another follower of a friend of mine stated that it was a new year in 2012, and that they would clear out their account and all they needed were their family. Facebook is not that serious. Either people want to be your friends on Facebook, or they don't. Either people are going to talk to you on Facebook, or they won't. I have around 150 friends on Facebook, I do not want anymore, and I do not care if I receive any more friend requests. In fact the friend request that I did receive, was the first in months.
People are going to unfriend you, they are going to take their business elsewhere and enjoy the virtual company of someone else online. Let them; for all you know that person is getting their ego stroked somewhere else, where you will not humor them online, just like people leave you in real life.
There is nothing to be gained materially or realistically from a Facebook friend. Do you speak to the person in real life? Had you spoken to the person in real life when you had the opportunity to do so? Would you speak to them in real life if that opportunity ever presented itself? If you can answer no to any of those questions, that person is not a real friend. 80 percent of my friends are college buddies that would not have anything to say to me if I were to run into them again, and I would not know the first thing to say to them either. I am actually experiencing a different side to our "relationship" through Facebook, and I would like to keep it that way. Others, I used to speak to on other social networks, but on Facebook they have nothing to say to me, that is just fine.
A friend I used to talk to on some other network was rude to me when I responded to a video she made on YouTube. She was yawning on the video, I told her to wake up, as a joke, and she told me to get a life. So I cancelled my subscription to her feed, which I hadn't found that interesting anyway. If the videos were interesting, and I was engaged, I would have continued to subscribe, regardless of how I was being treated.
Facebook is the same way; if you are funny, if you are interesting and thought provoking I will read your posts all day. If you take it personal chances are I have put you on mute and am reading the timeline of someone else. Relationships are not about you, they are about what you can offer other people. People make the mistake of thinking that relationships are about them when they are not. Their are those special cases; close friends, loved ones, family, blood ties, that it is about them, but someone they are talking to online, it is all about the entertainment factor for me.
Another follower of a friend of mine stated that it was a new year in 2012, and that they would clear out their account and all they needed were their family. Facebook is not that serious. Either people want to be your friends on Facebook, or they don't. Either people are going to talk to you on Facebook, or they won't. I have around 150 friends on Facebook, I do not want anymore, and I do not care if I receive any more friend requests. In fact the friend request that I did receive, was the first in months.
People are going to unfriend you, they are going to take their business elsewhere and enjoy the virtual company of someone else online. Let them; for all you know that person is getting their ego stroked somewhere else, where you will not humor them online, just like people leave you in real life.
There is nothing to be gained materially or realistically from a Facebook friend. Do you speak to the person in real life? Had you spoken to the person in real life when you had the opportunity to do so? Would you speak to them in real life if that opportunity ever presented itself? If you can answer no to any of those questions, that person is not a real friend. 80 percent of my friends are college buddies that would not have anything to say to me if I were to run into them again, and I would not know the first thing to say to them either. I am actually experiencing a different side to our "relationship" through Facebook, and I would like to keep it that way. Others, I used to speak to on other social networks, but on Facebook they have nothing to say to me, that is just fine.
A friend I used to talk to on some other network was rude to me when I responded to a video she made on YouTube. She was yawning on the video, I told her to wake up, as a joke, and she told me to get a life. So I cancelled my subscription to her feed, which I hadn't found that interesting anyway. If the videos were interesting, and I was engaged, I would have continued to subscribe, regardless of how I was being treated.
Facebook is the same way; if you are funny, if you are interesting and thought provoking I will read your posts all day. If you take it personal chances are I have put you on mute and am reading the timeline of someone else. Relationships are not about you, they are about what you can offer other people. People make the mistake of thinking that relationships are about them when they are not. Their are those special cases; close friends, loved ones, family, blood ties, that it is about them, but someone they are talking to online, it is all about the entertainment factor for me.
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